Monday, June 16, 2014

4 Extroverts Lost In The City

I enjoy the wonderful roller coaster that is my page views. Hello, Lovelies. Now I suppose you are wondering what the problem of 4 extroverted people lost in the city is and what advice you could possible get from this post... Well that's irrelevant, this is my story which could possibly include some advice that's really important for living your life.
Bad Waitress Coffee Shop
One of my favorite big city coffee shops
So you may or may not know that in just a few weeks or so, I will be headed to (insert name of Latin country here) to rebuild houses, pass out food and just in general interact with the people of (insert name of Latin country here) To prep us for going we had to visit a culturally diverse neighborhood, eat at an international market and ride the bus while talking to random strangers about their lives. Now I already come from a very diverse suburban area with a very diverse school so it wasn't exactly an adventure for me. However, the other people on our trip, not so much. They saw a person with dreadlocks and gasped. It was rather annoying traveling with so many people who apparently have never seen a homeless person or never smelled a person who hasn't bathed in a week. Now I can't blame them for growing up in the cushioned environment that they did but what I can blame them for is being so rude. Non of the people we saw stood out to me as odd but even our leaders were saying things like, "Now this looks nothing like our home of (insert name of heavily white populated area here) but remember different does not mean wrong." I had to stop myself from rolling my eyes. We haven't even left the country yet and people don't even know what the city is like!
A girl in another group, *Sarah, was waiting for the bus with us. She began conversing with a man about his life. He asked her how old she was and she replied with 16. He started screaming, "GET OUT OF THIS F**CKING BUSINESS AS FAST AS YOU CAN! ONCE YOU'RE IN YOU'LL NEVER GET OUT! YOU'RE SO YOUNG!" The man apparently thought she was a prostitute.
My group consisted of two college students, *Lizzy and *Ron, and two juniors, *Jane and I. We were all very extroverted. We all figured that we were right. I knew I was right but whatever.
The food was wonderful. You can't go wrong with handmade cream cheese wantons and chicken Thai Pad. Well unless your *Lizzy of course. Now with American foods Spicy is not deadly. Spicy in American food is the equivalent of Mild in Thai food. Mild is playing it safe, Medium is getting risky and Spicy is like if you could put Hell inside your mouth. I being the bland German ordered Mild. *Lizzy who has obviously never had Thai food before ordered Spicy. The cook and I exchanged glances and I think I saw him smirk. I was enjoying my food while practicing using chopsticks and *Lizzy... Well she was crying, sweating and wiping snot from her nose! She was turning pink! It took every once in my body not to fall off my chair laughing. I was suppressing my laughter so much I spit on *Ron. He was too preoccupied with *Lizzy's tomato face to notice though. *Jane and I continued to enjoy our food and smile at one another.
Then came the bus ride. The part that most of the people were dreading. We were told before we went out that we had to respect other people's culture or they wouldn't listen to us. (We also learned about the "Squatty Potty." Yay.) The man who was speaking to us used to live on the Gaza Strip in India so naturally we figured he had some good advice for us. However, he was also strongly Lutheran (Unnaturally) so the only thing I remember him saying was, "There were so many Hindu sculptures! Even though I just wanted to kick them over and bash them, I knew in doing so I wouldn't be able to spread the message of Christ." I looked over at the other's and they seemed to find that this was a totally normal statement. I didn't understand! How can you listen to a man who just totally denounced a whole religion!?! We all follow our religions based on faith so how can he claim that Christianity is better? (I'm an Episcopalian, Christian and even I find that statement truly aggravating.)
Anyway enough ranting. Back to my story. So non of us grabbed a map because we all figured someone else did. So we spent like 30 minutes trying to figure that out. We were told to get on bus 6. Now I knew where bus 6 would pick us up because the city is my place and because I'm usually right. Yet no one would listen to me. (I didn't even judge their religion or anything!) We ended up getting on bus 3 because we had to get to *White Water Mall which they thought was the same thing as *White Water Ave. Everyone on the bus had ear buds in so I awkwardly sat their playing with my fingernails and listening to the conversation that *Lizzy was having with and Nigerian Woman behind me. *Lizzy told me she didn't understand anything the woman was saying and thought she mentioned something about racism. She said nothing about racism but I'll give *Lizzy and A for Effort. We got off the bus at *White Water Ave and surprisingly, (not really) it had no relation to *White Water Mall. So *Ron, suggested we board bus 5. I suggested we go back and get on the right bus but apparently being a college student makes you more superior. Again everyone had headphones or ear buds so spent my time just observing. Like noticing the bus driver wore no bra and the woman next to me had two rings on her ring finger. We got off the bus and after walking down multiple streets found *White Water Mall. I knew this place because my DECA state competition was here. We had to find 11th street to catch a train. (I knew where that was.) They walked up and down the streets trying to find 11th street. *Lizzy complained that the streets went 7th to 14th. I almost cried. I was getting really stressed. The others seemed so laid back and relaxed and there I was seconds from tearing my hair out of my head. I tried to laugh at their jokes but as soon as I did they stopped laughing and it was just awkward. So then they figured we should just find our way back. We then proceeded to board bus 7 even though we needed to be looking for bus 21. *Ron pointed out that we were going in the wrong direction abut 15 minutes later so we got off the bus. Now we were about an hour walking distance away from the market and, oh yeah, it started to pour and hail and I, being always right, wore flip flops. "Your feet look like they're in so much pain," Yes, yes they are. Thanks for stating the obvious *Lizzy. So we walked back. They were deeply involved in their conversation about college and I was the 4th person on a 3 person side walk. My clothes became 2 pounds heavier and my pants wouldn't stay up anymore. I was miserable and worried we wouldn't get back in time. They remained calm and didn't even mention the fact that I was right and they were wrong. We arrived in time, just as I was about to start tearing up.
I suppose my advice for this post is to just relax. Worrying does nothing. Also if you've never been to the city and the person you are with has, listen to them no matter how right you think you are.
My wonderful best friend started blogging. He's much more deep and sophisticated than I am. His wonderful witty tales (which are all true) of love and heartbreak will have you eagerly waiting for his next post. Check him out at thenewgaykingalex.blogspot.org. Until next time, my friends.

Sunday, June 8, 2014

The Quest For Love Just Became 30 Requirements Harder

Another rainy, depressing, cramp filled day. I should get out more.. I've taken on the life of a true blogger. So lets begin. Now some of us may be single, and some of are in a relationship but one thing we have in common is the bonding over stupid things guys say. So enjoy as together we reminisce in all of the stupid lines we've heard over and over again and soon grow tired of hearing. To all my guy followers: Listen up and never say these things.
  • Well you're cute TO ME
That's great but we already know that we're cute/beautiful/pretty etc to you. We want to be pretty to everyone! Tell us we are cute, then stop there. Quit while you're ahead.
  • You deserve better than me
  • It's not you, it's me
I'm grouping these in the same category. If you stop liking a girl and don't want to date her anymore tell her. No one buys these over used lines anymore. You just seem cowardly.
  • You should send me a pic
No.
  • You're not fat, you're curvy
  • You could always diet
  • You're squishy
I call these accidental burns. You may not think that you're being rude but you are. Yes, the girl mind is a very complex thing. Tell her she isn't fat no matter how many time she says she is. Never agree.
  • It's up to you
If she asks you what you want to do it's because she doesn't know. 
  • Can I kiss you?
KISS HER! Spontaneity is adorable. Asking just makes it awkward no matter how cute it looks in the movies. 
  • Any kind of baby talk
Talk about really not cute. I don't even want to go into this one. Act your age is all I can say because baby talk isn't sexy.
  • Are you on your period?
I shouldn't even need to explain this one. 
Since I tons of these I'm going to post more eventually. I've really been into the topic of relationships lately. I'm not sure why. It must be all the the sappy movies that are out. I've been reading so many romances lately. I really hope I don't set too high of expectations for a boy because then I'll never find one. My list for guys is actually increasing instead of decreasing!! 
Cupcake Frappuccino
Because I have yet to find a man who can bake
  • He must smell normal
  • He must care about his hair
  • He must care about what he wears
  • I want him to bring my roses and chocolate for me for no reason
  • He can't be too possessive
  • He must let me brag and complain
  • He must visit me when I'm sick
  • An accent is always nice but not required
  • He must have a sense of humor
  • He must not be controlling
  • He must be able to deal with me
  • He must be dominant and submissive and mold to whatever I'm not
  • He must brag about me to his friends
  • He must not try to one up me
  • He must admit when I'm better at him then something
  • He must stay physically active. He doesn't have to have the best body (all though that is much appreciated) but I need him to be healthy
  • He must be able to cook or bake
  • He must have a passion
  • He needs to have goals
  • He needs to have ambition
  • He must enjoy music 
  • He can have hobbies but he can't put his hobbies before me
  • No one word or short phrased texts
  • He must be able to follow me in conversation and speak with proper grammar (or at the very least not speak using slang and vulgar terms)
  • I prefer if his acne was barely visible
  • He doesn't have to be totally smart but he needs to try in school 
  • He needs to use chap stick 
  • His friends must not disrespect me
  • He must be trustworthy
  • He must trust me
How will I find this man? No idea but that's not going to stop me. I will have my summer romance! Just keep these tips in mind for your hot summer:
  • Wear sunscreen. Tomato is not a good color and sunscreen won't prevent tanning
  • There is such thing as too much skin
  • Sand can be really uncomfortable 
  • Beware tan lines
  • Friends are more important than flings
As you can see, I've been in a list mood lately. Blog soon. Continue to post comments and links to your blogs!
-Shae

Saturday, June 7, 2014

How To Be A "Good Girl" :First Installment

Hello my beautiful readers,
Goodness I've had no time to blog. I'm in literally every extra curricular at school and I'm in every honor's class but now it's summer!! It is also raining so I have nothing better to do. So I posted on how to be a good girl before so some of this will be repeat advice but you'll need it all the same. I figure I'll be learning many more things throughout the rest of my high school career so I'm going to make many more installments. So to begin:
How to be a good girl at school:
1. Teachers hear and see everything. When you say something that you wouldn't want a teacher to hear they telepathically tell everyone else to shut up so they can hear you embarrass yourself by saying something totally vulgar or gross
2. The best way to fight back to someone who is threatening you is to let them attack you. If they are in your face and want to beat you, just stand there. They usually don't punch idle people. It's pointless and will get them into quite a bit of trouble. Plus you'll seem like a total bad ass for just standing there
3.The nicer you are to teachers the more they let you slip up on homework
4. Don't ask stupid questions. This includes but it not limited to:

  • When will we ever use this in life?
  • I wasn't here yesterday. Did you do anything important?
  • Why do we have to learn this?
  • Do we need our book tomorrow?
  • Can we go outside?
  • How much work will we have in this class?
  • Is this going to be on the test?
  • Can we use notes on our test?
  • Can we watch a movie?
5. The one who gossips to you, gossips about you
6. STOP THE PDA! A hug and a peck on the lips doesn't bother me but you shouldn't be sucking each others' tongues in the hall way. How romantic is that anyway? Like awwwh cuuute your first kiss happened in the stair well as apposed to in the snow, rain or on a beautiful romantic beach somewhere. LIKE HELLO? Don't create a ritual of making out in school. I can't even begin to explain how bored you'll get of each other. Kissing should bring butterflies. That's why unplanned pregnancies and genital warts happen! Everyone gets so damn bored of just making out so they go all "Sexy, Can I?" on everyone
7. If you wear reveling clothes don't be surprised that guys use you for your body. People will roll their eyes when you say, "I just want a guy who doesn't use me only for my body!" Then stop marketing it, Sweetie
8. Use heels with discretion
9. Stop the constant swearing. Believe it or not it doesn't make you look cute. If you swear once in awhile, that's cool but if you say "F**k" in every sentence it just makes you look trashy. A classy man wants a classy woman and a trashy man wants a trashy woman
10. Actually do well in school. Where the hell do you think you all are going to end up? If you don't get good grades, you wont make good money and you'll be living on the street. How cute will doing drugs, partying and having sex look then?
11. Make friends. The only way someone can be a loner is if they let themselves be. It's quite a bit easier than you may think. Just don't judge someone... even if they have pom poms... it doesn't mean they don't have souls
12. The first amendment doesn't exist in school because we are minors and anything that may disrupt learning, safety, etc can and will get you into major trouble. Don't go saying it's your "right" because it isn't
13. If they make you change your clothes deal with it. Yeah, it's your money, your body etc but it's school and their rules, deal. Petition all you want, it will change nothing.
How to be a good girl at home:
1. Parents always win. Accept your punishment even it seems unjust. If you fight you'll just make it worse
2. If they won't let you wear what you want change at school
3. Just clean your room. You don't want creepy insects nesting in your room. Just ask my brother. It happens.
4. If your mother doesn't like one of your friends, it's for good reason. Complaining won't make your mother like them
5. Don't sneak out. Just don't. You're not as clever as you think
6. One day you'll learn that your parents aren't against you. They always have your best interest in mind
7. It takes along time to build trust and seconds to destroy it
8. Never hide anything in your room
9. Don't get sloppy with hiding things. If you've successfully hidden something for a long time you'll tend to get sloppy. Be careful
Being a good girlfriend of a high schooler:
1. Don't buy him anything that isn't edible
2. Don't let him buy you anything that isn't edible or won't die (I can't tell you how many necklaces I have that I can't wear)
3. Never discuss video games (If you do he'll never stop)
4. Don't talk about him to his friends
5. Don't control what he eats
6. Watch yourself when you talk to guys. He may mistake this for flirting
7. Never make relationships statuses or post billions of pictures if you with him. Breaking up and having to delete everything is effort that you don't need to add to your busy schedule
8. Don't tell him what to do
9. Don't try to help him in school or try to coax him into doing better in school
10. Never brag
11. Don't complain
12. Don't discuss political views
13. Don't discuss religious views
14. Treat him like he's the only guy in the world
15. If he treats you like his bitch, this is normal
16. Don't you dare get jealous!
17. Don't get mad at him if he becomes jealous
18. Don't ask him why he didn't text you back or call you back
19. Don't be clingy
20. If you judge yourself he'll agree because he probably won't be smart enough to form opinions for himself (sad but true)
21. Don't ask him if your dress makes you look fat. There's only a 20% chance he'll say what you want to hear
22. Never tease him in front of his friends
23. Don't burp, fart or sweat near him
24. Let him say he loves you first
25. Don't dress to impress him. If you wanted to impress a boy with how you dressed just go nude
26. If you must send nudes DON'T PUT YOUR FACE IN IT! If you don't you can always deny it
27. Don't mean to be a total parent but sex doesn't equal love
28. Make sure you smell pretty
29. Remember now it's not all about you. You are with someone who has feelings, emotions and a life all his/her own. It's no longer all about you. Make sure to ask them how they're doing. Learn their fake smiles. Learn what makes him laugh and what makes him smile. Visit him when he's sick. Tell him he looks attractive. Relationships are a part of growing up

I'll post more installments and blog posts soon. This week is looking pretty rainy. Bye, my beauties.